Your husband is not that hot

I remember hearing a guest on a talk show once commenting on how much some straight people are afraid of gay people. Frustrated by this, he wanted to tell them all, “you’re not that hot!” The idea that all these gay people were going to be making advances was just ridiculous. Well, to all the married or otherwise coupled ladies out there, “your husband is not that hot.” So we can all stop worrying about me making advances.

This doesn’t necessarily solve the problem that I’m that hot. But even if I am—he didn’t pick me. And it’s just really sad for these women to be obsessing about facebook friends and old girlfriends, etc. Partly I blame Sex and the City. I remember watching a whole episode about how problematic it is to be single because married women see you as a threat.

I want to state for the record that I’m not friends with any of these women. Spouses and girlfriends alike have happily let me spend some quality alone time with their men. For all of the relationships that pre-date me becoming friends with the guy, I think the women would laugh their asses off at the thought he’d jump ship for me. One of my friends’ wives is so comfortable with the issue she told me how sexy her husband thought I looked after glamming it up one night.

To sum up: WOMEN AND MEN CAN BE FRIENDS. It’s possible. Lots and lots of times we can’t because of real or perceived sexual interest, but not every time. So get a grip people.