Toe in the water

In case you missed it, I was on dating hiatus. I resigned my online account and enjoyed the silence. Dating is just so damn unrewarding. All that effort for six months and I came away with nothing. Well, that’s not true. I found out I’m not diabetic and got a free A/V receiver. And several people confirmed that lack of foreplay does mean he’s just not that into me.

But if I was hoping for a relationship or some more insight on how to get into a relationship, I pretty much came up blank. Feel free to post any lessons you think I should have learned in the comments section. Cuz I’m at a loss.

The reason I’m casting about for insight is that I have dipped a tentative toe back into the water of online dating. I wish I could say that it’s because I’m ready for love, blah blah blah, but the truth is that I have to stop spending money. And once I can’t shop for stuff online, well, that only leaves men.

One big change I’m making is that I didn’t re-sign up for the mass meat market. I’m going boutique this time, with a site aimed towards lefty singles. I’m hoping the move to boutique eliminates all the guys who don’t read, don’t like to talk about ideas, and live in suburbs I’ve never heard of.

The second change I’m making is to be more discriminating. In the end, I didn’t manage to stay friends with any of the guys I met online. So no more giving every guy a shot. If he can’t spark my interest—no date. I can’t be going on three dates a week again. The little voice in my head that says what if that guy is way better looking than his picture and you didn’t give him a shot? is just going to have shut up.

So stay tuned. I have a date next week with a guy who seems interesting and attractive. Fingers crossed.